Self-care on Mother's Day
We talk to Senior Fertility Counsellor, Tracey Sainsbury, about taking care of ourselves this Mother’s Day.
None of us would be here without them, our Mums. Some of us will have more than one, maybe a birth one, and an adoptive one too, or a step Mum; we might buy a card and sometimes flowers or a gift to say thank you, just for being our Mum.
But, if you’re not a Mum and want to be one or have experienced loss, then we recognise how Mother’s Day can really make the sadness feel very present, even if you had been fine for a while.
“We all have an unconscious nurturing capacity. When we’re ready to become parents, or parents again a void opens as we can’t quantify how much nurturing space our own child will need. Often, we can feel an emptiness, and a whole day focused on ‘Mum’ focuses our own attention on what’s missing.” Says Tracey.
This Mother’s Day it’s time to focus on nurturing ourselves. “The greatest gift we can give to anyone is our time,” says Tracey “but often as life is so busy we forget we need some for ourselves too. A day of being self-indulgent might not be possible but an hour or two can make a real difference to our robustness in managing our emotions.”
Here are her Tracey’s top tips for self-care on Mother’s Day
A lie in with a good book or magazine
A walk in the park or around the town, enjoying just the act of going for a walk
A relaxing bath
A swim or jog or trip to the gym
Gardening in the Spring sunshine
Writing a journal, reflecting on you, where you’ve been, where you are and where you’re going
“You may find that socialising or familial venues, coffee shops, country pubs or restaurants may well be full of families on Mother’s Day and sometimes that can be just too much.” Says Tracey.
Another good idea for self-care is to communicate with people who understand what you might be going through. The LWC runs a monthly support group for women and couples going through fertility treatment which is open to patients of all clinics not just the LWC. Aside from this, you may find closed Facebook groups or fertility forums useful to speak with others in a similar situation.
If you feel you may benefit from extra support, our support hub is full of links that might be useful. If you’re a patient of the LWC, our patient support team is always here for you too and available to contact via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.